The breakup didn't break you. The 'healing' will. It’s not the endless, scrolling highlight reel of your ex’s new life on social media. It’s not the well-meaning but useless advice from friends who just want you to “get over it.” It’s a poison you might even be serving yourself, a saccharine-sweet Kool-Aid laced with arsenic, disguised as spiritual wisdom. It’s called spiritual bypassing, and it’s the art of using spiritual ideas and practices to avoid dealing with your raw, messy, inconvenient human emotions. It’s the glitter-covered bandage slapped over a festering wound. You know what it looks like. You’ve just had your heart shattered into a million unrecognizable pieces. You can barely breathe for the grief, the rage, the gut-wrenching betrayal. And someone, maybe even that little voice in your own head, chirps, “Everything happens for a reason!” or “Just focus on the positive!” or “This is a beautiful opportunity for growth!” Read also: The Dark Feminine Rising: Reclaiming Your Power After Being Diminished Bullshit. Complete and utter bullshit. Many have found practices for emotional liberation to be a powerful catalyst for change. See also: The Sacred Pause: How Three Seconds of Stillness Can Save... . That is not healing.